Confidence... Work in Progress.

A couple of years ago I picked up the book entitled Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer hoping it could help me in this journey called womanhood. I knew it was more to being a woman than just child birth and this book seemed to be what I had been looking for at the time. I see now that women need confidence in every aspect of your lives. We are a very apologetic sex, meaning we tend to apologize for almost everything we do because we are taught to be mild and timid and not to be too aggressive. But…what is confidence? I know it’s not anything be apologetic for. Joyce Meyer list 7 secrets of a confident woman and they are:
1. A confident woman knows that she is loved.
2. A confident woman refuses to live in fear.
3. A confident woman is positive.
4. A confident woman recovers from setbacks.
5. A confident woman avoids comparisons.
6. A confident woman takes action.
7. A confident woman does not live in “if only” and “what if.”
These seven things are so right on. And If I can add on number 8 would be to TAKE SOME RESPONSIBILITY! So I decided to apply them in my own life. Once I decided to take some responsibility for my own life and chose not to blame anyone else for any short comings; personally that had helped my confidence. Say to yourself “I your name have chosen to take responsibility for myself for my own actions move forward and to only look back as the sankofa bird… “Always remember the past for therein lies the future, if forgotten… we are destined to repeat it”. I believe that the sankofa bird embodies some of what Joyce Meyer is saying in the secret 7 by basically looking forward and not be apologetic. There are numerous times I had to take confidence by the hand to walk with me as like a shield. There is another saying “as a man thinketh so is he/she” so I thought myself confident as I still am to this day and will do until I’m laid to rest. I am getting naked right now when I share with you that I had to get over come voices telling me things like I am stupid, not worthy for all the of the best that life has for me and that I will not recover from my past of mistakes and what people may think of me…I can testify that it is confidence that has helped me to combat these evil voices. There will ALWAYS be something trying to hold us back because life is just orchestrated this way. This is where confidence comes in; confidence is a daily tool as air is to life. No one woman in history has become a smart, sexy woman without confidence, therefore take confidence as your best friend, sit with her and let her be that alter ego that you want to shine through.

This is what I believe...

This was sent to me via email from a minister friend. This is what I have been living my life by… SPEAK YOUR BELSSINGS! In REVINVENTING myself I am also reinventing my speech. When you read this, soak it up and let it take residence in your mind and spirit.

No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.
~ Isaiah 54:17~

The Lord is developing and raising up a people that will indeed walk by faith (conviction or persuasion plus corresponding action) and NOT by sight (II Cor. 5:7). He is raising up a people that will not be moved by what they see, hear or feel. The only thing that can cause “these people” that he is developing to move is the word of the Lord!

Satan's (the prince of the power of the air) job is to get in our circumstances and paint a picture of what he wants us to think the end is going to be. He does this to get us out of FATIH and into FEAR. He knows that FEAR is a negative form of faith and if he can get us in fear concerning our circumstance we give him LEAGAL right to stay. (This is what actually happened with Job….REMEMBER he said, “The thing that I FEARD most came upon me.” but that’s another word on a different day)

However, we know that he (Satan) is the FATHER of lies and whatever picture he paints could only be a LIE (a distortion of truth)! We should already know that the end is going to be (if we have read the book). So why....WHEN WE KNOW THE TRUTH...would we be moved by a lie that the enemy presents to us???

We must understand this...the enemy's job is to FORM a weapon against us...but that weapon will not prosper, if we stand in faith. So, we as the people of God shouldn't fear what is being formed because our GOD said it WILL NOT prosper!!!! But, how do we walk in that reality that it will not prosper?

The next part of that verse says, “Every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment THOU shall condemn.” A lot of times we are waiting for the Lord to do something about the weapon that is forming against us and HE HAS DONE HIS PART!!! He has given you His word and authority. It’s like he told Moses, “Why are you crying out to Me". He was saying, I gave you the authority and I have showed you how to work it.

We condemn the weapon that is formed against us by speaking the word to it.
If we are justified and condemned by our own words then wouldn’t it be correct to understand that others are justified and condemned by our words and so are our circumstances justified or condemned by our words. Matt. 12:37

By your WORDS you will either give LIFE to the thing that is really just a FORM or by your WORDS you will cause it to DIE (die=shall not prosper). Proverbs 18:21 - Life and death are in the POWER of the tongue...what is the power of the tongue? WORDS!!!

That is our heritage (the status acquired by a person through birth...BIRTHRIGHT, our inheritance)!

So, we have to truly live by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God ...and not the (FEAR) = False Evidence Appearing Real that the enemy presents to us!

REMEMBER YOU ARE THE JUST AND THE JUST LIVE BY FAITH!!!
LET THE REDEEMED OF THE LORD SAY SO….OR SAY WHAT IS TO BE SO!!!!

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Back in 2008 I really needed to move so I took out a loan from a pay day store that I could pay back in installments *I know… I know*. This was a $700 loan that was set to be paid back over a year and they would be hitting my bank account EVERY TWO WEEKS even before I got to see my own earnings. The payments were for $92 ~~this is extra… any time you set something up with your money and the payer gets to it before you do, is NOT how you should want to treat your money~~ now, if you have done your math already that’s right….. I was paying back $2,208 on a $700 loan! The interest on the loan for the year was over 300% and because the usury law in Illinois is all over the place I’m not sure if I had been had by law or by man, but this is no time to point fingers and I should have been more fiscally responsible and thought it through. Now… when I look back I could have came up with many ways on how to get the extra money I needed, i.e. second job, or just move in with someone for a couple of months and stacked it. In the defense of the loan company if I would have paid the loan off sooner I would not have paid back the full amount of $2,208 but because I never had $700 plus a bit of interest at one time, I had to have the money taken out every two weeks. I was in a hurry only to be pushed back, and by that I mean that place would have been there when I was finally financially comfortable to move so if I would have been more responsible I would not have been $100 short every two weeks because of a loan that I really didn’t need. So… lesson learned when I took them a check for $60.71 my remaining balance. I haven’t felt that free from anything in a long time. The saying is true… “Good things comes to those who wait” and in my case so did my financial freedom.

Disclaimer~ I’m not talking bad about loans companies this is just a head up to think before signing on the dotted line.

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Good Bye My MY SWEET!

Give me a piece of cake, pie, a cookie, a chocolate candy bar and I am all over it! I’m not a big candy person i.e. hard candy, but I am a huge pastries person. A piece of cake would make my day much brighter. A month ago God sent me on a fast for my friends and family and that fast consisted of no snacks and by no snacks I mean my beloved pastries. I was only eating 3x a day, breakfast lunch and dinner and if I got hungry I would eat fruit. Since this fast my finger nails have gotten so much stronger and are growing out of control. I’m not sure about my hair because I have been wearing it curly so I’m not sure about its growth but I have seen some changes. In my past I would get a horrible nasty attitude if I was hungry and the only thing that would help was a “snack” so I would hoard candy bars in my purse for such occasions. Now, since my fast I don’t feel any attitude because I would pray when I felt those hunger pains so I have learned to deal with it, stop being a brat and just eat when I can. I also feel much lighter, I don’t have that frumpy fat feeling .You really are what you eat and me consuming so many sweets from day to today I started to feel heavy, like a bag of sugar. I also cut out soda. I was told by a lady that had ovarian cancer that dark soda especially is very bad for woman of color and can promote ovarian cancer, *side note: *I tried looking this up to see if it was a fact, but had no luck but if you find something please let me know* she drunk only soda and the doctor told her that is was mainly from being a heavy soda drinker. This has always stayed with me so during my fast I decided to lay off the soda all together and drink nothing but water and natural juice. When my fast ended I still felt the need not to eat any sweets, so for a year have given up all pastries, candy bars and soda. I choose a year just to do an experiment on myself to see if it will impact my life in anyway. I am expecting this to be nothing but positive. I will be documenting any significant changes like attitude and body image… stay tuned.

P.S. My fasting brought about deliverance in the lives of two friends, God is good.

And My Hair Says....

About 2 weeks ago I decided to want to grow my hair very long. In my journey I have looked up websites and YouTube videos on how to take care of your hair. In my research I have came across some awesome info and the best yet is when I found that there are different types of hair, from 1a-4c. I found out that I am about a 3b/3c in hair type but it just one problem…. These hair types usually pertain to black woman that are mixed with other cultures and I am not mixed, well not directly meaning both my parents have more African American in them than anything else. My hair is curly like a 3b/3c but the curls are not the same, they don’t lay when they are dry, when my hair is dry it looks like a dried out afro with just a hint of a curl. My skin color is a reddish brown, my hair is fine and curly, I have oval shaped slanted eyes and full lips. I have been told be for that I am exotic looking and I have been asked… “Are you Cuban? Are you Asian? Are you Dominican?” And my response of course is no but I don’t think my hair knows that. I have set out to have my own way of treating my hair. It’s hard for me to do what others have done to keep their hair healthy because my hair is in a world all its own. I tried to treat my hair like mixed girls but it won’t curl like theirs and I can’t wear my hair in afros because it will just look dry and limp because my hair isn’t course. Therefore, so far in my journey I have found a couple of things are working for me. I will share those things later when I see significant growth in my hair. So if you have the issue I have and you’re not mixed but your hair may say otherwise please feel free to share your hair journey with me. Until then I will be me the only one I can be because my hair says so… LOL…

UPDATE!!!

EUREKA! My prayers have been answered! With much searching I found this blog named Protecting your crown and glory and the best part is that she has the same hair grade as mine! By flowing her regimens and suggestions I have seen a wonderful improvement in my hairs condition. She has soooo many helpful tips! And she is a very positive up beat blogger. I love this blog! Because I believe sharing is caring I suggest that you go on her site. She has tips from hair, make up, nails and dieting as well as daily devotions... I know we can use those every day.

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